Today I got the same old question, what’s it like being a twin? Can you read each others thoughts? Are you telepathic?
Well to answer the question, where do we start. Being a twin is not something you really think about until that question is asked and so many times we have said, ‘It’s all we know.’
All we know is being part of a set, like a salt and pepper shaker, one doesn’t come without the other, one doesn’t leave without their presence being noticed gone. We have never known what it’s like to not have each other, we are so intertwined our personalities cross, our manners are mimicked in each other and other voices are identical. Without each other we are not sure we know what life would be like or whether we would be the same people we are today, and we are not in a hurry to find out as being a twin has defined us.
We love the fact our minds work alike, yes we can almost read each other’s mind but that comes with knowing someone so in-depth that you can read them like an open book. Without each other we feel half a person. Having a twin is like having a best friend who is always there for you, having someone who even when they hate you they love you. Having a twin is having the one person who can make you smile without even having to say a word, being a twin is the best feeling in the world, without each other we would not know who we were. But as I said before it all comes back to never knowing another way of life, but we wouldn’t choose another way as being twins suits us just fine.
I have met twins who don’t experience the same connection me and my sister have, many come to dislike each other or have their own group of friends they hang out with. But us, we have always been and most likely will always be inseparable. I don’t know why this is, why some twins disconnect yet others are so close.
Most twins get split up in schools to make them interact with other children as twins can have a tendency to depend on each other and create their own world with their own language.
I think over time as people grow up and evolve, some people do not like having someone so similar to them, maybe it makes them feel like their unique, often I meet twins so unlike each other as they go out their way to prove that they are their own person, making their own individual mark on the world, often I have heard of competitiveness and jealously between twins.
With me and my sister this is not the case, our sameness is our uniqueness!! and everyone who meets us says even though how similar we are how different we are at the same time! We have managed to have a nice balance, we don’t feel the need to wear the same, and obsessively be similar, but we like our similarities and embrace our differences!
At school we were separated but every break we would play with each other, anyone who was one of our friends had to be both. Not to say we don’t have work friends, but in general our closet friends are the same, are best friends are pretty much identical.
We did try having our own rooms in our teenage years but it was the most miserable thing not having each other around, we felt bored, we are in ways each others entertainment. Now we rent separately but see each other about 3 times a week, text and ring each other non stop and Facebook each other constantly. We never feel like we aren’t our own person as we are both individuals in our own right, but in the end we know we are twins and we love being part of each other.
I hope above clears up some questions, yet if you have any more never hesitate to ask and we’ll try to answer as honestly as we can.